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What Is Life Coaching?
There are no short cuts to success. Yet, with the proper tools and resources you can accelerate your success, so that you achieve your goals and realize your dreams in far less time than you could have on your own.
One of the single most effective success-accelerators is coaching. A coach or mentor helps breathe life into your intentions, transforming them into concrete goals and then providing you with the transformational tools and motivation you need to turn those goals into reality.
Whatever the area is that needs to be addressed, each coaching scenario is carefully mapped out in its curriculum content and progress plan for maximum effectiveness in:
Breaking free from limiting beliefs and self-sabotage for accelerated results
Developing authentic confidence
Determining what matters most, amplifying your vision, and activating your best resources
Strategies for overcoming fear, doubt and worry
Using your current conditions as levers for achieving your goals
Understanding the missing and often misunderstood elements of effective goal achieving
What a Life Coach is
You’ve probably heard the term “Life Coach” many times by now. And you may have thought that that was something you needed in your life, but perhaps you weren’t quite sure what the term meant, or you understood it but wanted to learn more.
On this page, I’m going to give you a detailed explanation of what life coaches are and what they do. Put simply, a life coach is a person who understands the principles of success and how to apply them, and teaches others how to most effectively put them to use.
Coaches find immense joy using their gifts to help people overcome their inner and outer obstacles, and showing their clients how to identify and create the lives of their dreams.
For example, let’s say you’re stuck in a job you don’t enjoy, but you don’t have enough money saved to last you through the transition into a career you want.
In this case, a coach would help you discover the field of work that you would love to be in, the one that’s aligned with your core purpose. Then they’d help you identify the specific career that you want, and they’d work with you to create a plan for making the switch.
Or, if you were trying to meet your soul-mate, a coach might help you discover exactly what it is that is holding you back from love, and guide you through the process of overcoming those obstacles. They’d also help you become a person who’s attractive to the kind of mate you desire and create the circumstances that enable you and your soul-mate to find each other.
Simply put, a coach is someone who empowers you, and shows you that you can achieve anything you set your heart and mind to.
What a Life Coach is NOT
They are not like a self-help book. Self-help books often offer a one-size-fits-all solution, and even if they do allow some wiggle room for you to implement their teachings in a way that fits your personality and life, very few of them really help their readers manage that implementation process.
Because of this, self-help books often become ‘shelf-help’ – things you read, are impressed by, use just a little bit, and then put away on a shelf without ever fully applying their teachings to your life. In fact, this is likely to happen with any teaching that doesn’t include ongoing support and instructions for how to implement it.
There’s also the fact that, as you put any kind of new information to use, old wounds and new obstacles inevitably arise. If you don’t have any kind of ongoing support and guidance in order to navigate these, you’re likely to end up slipping back into your old habits, and possibly even giving up.
A Life Coach is Not a Therapist.
A therapist will listen to your problems, repeatedly bring your focus back to your wounds, and try to heal those wounds. But they won’t always know how to fully move you past that old pain, or how to stop attracting more of the same difficulties.
Life coaches help you to understand your pain, why you’ve suffered the way you have, why it still hurts, and why “bad” things continue to happen in your life. And they’ll help you heal from that pain, regain your faith in the world and yourself, and change the habits and mindsets that continue to attract the same wounds – even if you aren’t aware that you HAD those patterns in the first place.
They are typically not a psychologist.
While both professions help people understand the human mind, coaches use that understanding to unleash your inner power and creativity, tap into wisdom that you don’t know you have, and turn your mind into a powerful magnet that attracts the people and circumstances you want, with far less effort on your part.
Life coaches understand that your mind works in conjunction with powerful and universal laws, and these laws govern whether you’ll succeed in ANY area of your life. Because of this, it is vital to know how to make your mind work in your favor, and a coach can show you how.
What Does a Life Coach Do?
A good coach will do several things with you, as follows:
- Get a clear idea of what will truly make you happy.
It isn’t enough to achieve just any goal. You need to be working toward the RIGHT goals, ones that will meet your deepest needs, connect you with your purpose and core, and make you truly happy.
Many times, the things that people think they desire would really only treat the symptoms of their longing, not its source. A coach helps you get to the root of what you want, so you can make sure that what you’re working for really is the key to your long-term happiness.
- Understand what is holding you back.
Your emotions and subconscious mind may not enjoy the status quo, but they are accustomed to it. They understand it, they’re comfortable with it, and they know how to handle it. So without even realizing it, you create elaborate habits, mindsets and defenses that are designed to keep you safe and your world familiar, and to prevent any change from occurring in your life – even if the change is positive.
Because of this, a coach can help you understand what habits and beliefs are not serving you, and how to change them into positive, powerful patterns and mindsets that enable you to create bigger successes, faster than you would ever have believed possible before.
- Overcome the circumstances that make success seem unlikely or impossible.
Many people believe that they’re too poor, in the wrong geographical area, or are not pretty enough, talented enough, lucky enough, or otherwise able in any way to create the lives they’ve been dreaming of…
But the truth is, many people have overcome even bigger obstacles than the ones you’re facing now, and they’ve achieved success that most people only dream about.
A good mentor explains the principles that successful people use, and helps their clients apply them to their own lives, so that their circumstances no longer control whether or not they can have the life they desire.
What Does A Life Coach NOT Do?
They don’t tell you what is best for you. They don’t tell you what kind of life you should create, or what kind of person you should become.
Instead, they help to reconnect you with your true self, core purpose, and deepest desires that are already inside of you, waiting to be remembered. Further, they assist with identifying who you were before the world told you who you ought to be.
A coach should also not be trying to get you to rehash your problems, wallow in them, and ingrain them deeper into your life. What you focus on is what you attract more of, so a coach helps you to overcome your pain and then move on, so you can focus on the things you desire instead of what you want to avoid.
What Are The Benefits of Having a Life Coach?
Working with a coach empowers you to stop being ruled by your circumstances, limitations and old wounds, and start to create the life you desire, no matter how much or how little you have to work with.
Coaches help you to understand which goals are worth going after, and which are only a distraction from your real needs and desires, so you don’t waste years going down the wrong path. And they teach you the principles of success, so you become capable of creating ANYTHING you want,even if it doesn’t seem possible right now.
They guide you through the creation of a practical, actionable plan, and they support you through the process of putting that plan into action, so you’re never left to ask yourself “OK, I did that part – now what?”
They also help you overcome the fears, doubts and distractions that inevitably arise when the status quo begins to change, so you don’t get dragged back into your old patterns just as you were beginning to make progress.
Because of all of this, you gain the ability to become healthier, happier, wealthier, and less stressed than you ever have been before, and you’re also empowered to create the lifestyle and attract the love that you desire and deserve.
What Problems Can a Life Coach Solve?
The principles that coaches use can be applied to ANY area of life. Here are a few of the problems that coaches frequently solve:
- You’re stuck in a job you don’t enjoy, but you don’t know how to transition into a better one.
- You’re struggling to make ends meet, and no matter how hard you work, you never manage to get ahead in life.
- Even though you’re an adult, you still don’t know what you want to be when you grow up. You want to discover your purpose, but you don’t know how.
- You yearn to find love and marry your soul-mate, but you can’t seem to make that connection no matter how much you try.
- You’re repeatedly getting sick, and you desperately want that cycle of illness to end, but you don’t know how to make it stop.
- You’re stressed, exhausted and burned out, but you don’t know how to get everything done without working long into the night.
- You’ve been told that somehow, you’re not good enough to create the life you’ve been longing for, and part of you believes it.
How Does Life Coaching Work?
There are a few different methods that typical coaches use. I’ll explain a few of them here.
In this style, you and the coach would connect one-on-one, either in person, through the phone, or over the internet, usually for 60-90 minutes each week. You would discuss where you currently are, what needs to happen next, and how you can take that step and keep making progress. You would then be given specific action steps to carry out that week, and you’d also go over the results of last week’s projects, so you could be sure that you were moving in the right direction.
This is similar to 1-on-1 coaching, with added benefits and disadvantages.
The benefit of group coaching is that you can network with the other members of the group, and receive teaching and support from them as well as from the coach. You can also learn from their journeys as they share their struggles and action steps, so you could end up gleaning information that would never have come up in a 1-on-1 setting.
On the downside, it does result in less intense and focused personal care, as you have to share your time on the call with other people.
Each month I carve out time during my speaking and coaching schedule to offer a few complimentary discovery sessions. This session will help you get clear on what you want, what’s holding you back, and your best next big step.
I have a limited number of appointments available and they often book up quickly, so if you’re interested in coaching and you’d like to schedule a complimentary “Find Your Happy” discovery session, fill in the form below or call my office at 561-430-0012.
I ‘d love to hear from you! Stella
I’m a personal coach with an enthusiastic and fearless outlook. I know that life is more than our situations and circumstances. It is my mission to get you from where you are to where you want to be.
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